by Brenda Hernandez, Staffwriter
Devils’ Advocate

While it may seem that some people are naturally more sociable than others, the fact of the matter is that all human beings are social; and as with any other skill, it is possible to train oneself to become more social.

Those who refer to themselves as “antisocial” tend to constantly criticize both themselves and those around them. Avoiding social interaction causes fear that others will judge you. Overthinking is usually what prevents people from enjoying social interactions; and even though it may seem difficult, it is important to break the habits of anticipating what social interactions will be like before they actually happen.

Interestingly enough, shy people who feel invisible and unwanted also tend to feel like they are constantly under a spotlight, being watched and criticized by the others. This strange paradox of shyness is what prevents people from feeling comfortable being themselves around others. This doesn’t mean you should feel like an unimportant person, but rather, acknowledge that you are your own worst critic and other people are simply too busy to constantly judge and criticize you. Keep in mind that people are so caught up in their own lives and interactions that they have little time to notice if you embarrass yourself, say something stupid, or don’t look your best at that very moment.

Take the time to recognize that someone out there feels exactly the same way you do, and that even the most social person still feels insecure; the only difference is that they choose to take the risk and enjoy themselves rather than worrying about how others will react. Just like any other skill, being sociable requires consistency and practice in order to master. Getting out of your comfort zone and interacting with other people on a regular basis is a great start to becoming someone social. Furthermore, if you truly want to be a social person, you will have to be social in all aspects of your life – from school to friends to family.

Embrace opportunities to meet new people and expand your social circle. Accept invitations to parties and social gatherings, take mini trips to new places, and talk to strangers in cafes. Or, simply join a club at SUHi… we have plenty to offer, and all are very welcoming with Red Devils who would be glad to bring you into their extended SUHi family.